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Dwight and Shari Tobyne were planning a divorce after 35 years of marriage. Shari did not want a divorce, because Dwight controlled their bank accounts.
Dwight Tobyne and Shari Grifton grew up in Clay Center, Kansas. Dwight’s family owned a farm. Shari’s family owned a successful propane business.
She would come to the edge of the street, jump on the tractor with him and ride around.Curt Carmichael (son in law)
Dwight and Shari Tobyne married in 1975. They moved to Salinas, Kansas in 1978 so Dwight could study Animal Sciences at Kansas State University. Shari worked in a hospital call center to support Dwight’s education, while she raised three children.
Dwight Loved Shari
Dwight Tobyne earned a Master of Science degree. He credited Shari in a report “Ronnel and its Effects on Feedlot Performance.”
Special thanks are expressed to the writer’s wife, Shari, whose encouragement and assistance made possible the completion of this paper.Dwight Nolan Tobyne
Dwight’s success was tainted after he lost most of the couple’s assets trading stocks. However, he was motivated to become a success. He worked as a commodities broker in Salinas, to learn about the stock markets.
Business and Fraud
The couple moved to Denver, so Dwight could study business at the University of Denver. Dwight Tobyne graduated in 1991 with a Master’s Degree in Business Administration.
Dwight started “Tobyne and Company,” a loan brokerage company, after graduation.
Shari got a real estate license to generate income in case Dwight’s business failed.
Dwight’s business was successful, but real estate agents have a strict Code of Ethics to follow, and Shari’s license was revoked in 2004.
Welcome to Arizona
Dwight also bought Shari a Jaguar — he dream car. Apparently, he was not worried about his marriage.
However, Shari worried that Dwight was losing interest in his business, and it could affect her affluent lifestyle.
So Dwight let Shari manage his business.
Shari Tobyne Gets Greedy
Shari Tobyne was living in a gorgeous home, driving a Jaguar, but she wanted more.
Dwight trusted her until he began receiving calls from clients, asking about his health. Shari told clients that Dwight was hospitalized to delay their payments.
Dwight found $50,000 missing. However, Shari said she used it for family expenses and he forgave her.
Shari’s First Suicide Attempt
Shari stole additional money.
She sent alarming text messages to family and disappeared. Dwight found her at a friend’s house after a suicidal overdose.
Medics revived Shari. Dwight subsequently learned that he owed creditors a million dollars, despite a lifetime of work.
Dwight sold their magnificent home in Gilbert to pay creditors. The couple moved to a rented condo in Scottsdale, Arizona.
The FBI investigated Tobyne and Company for fraud, in 2009.
On November 5, 2009 Dwight was advised by an attorney to divorce Shari and block her from accessing their remaining assets.
Bryce Tobyne invited his brother Dwight to live with him in Enid, Oklahoma.
Dwight rented a trailer, to move from Arizona to Oklahoma.
However, Dwight never arrived in Oklahoma for Thanksgiving, as they planned.
Meanwhile, Shari Tobyne was broke and depressed.
She claimed that she wanted to kill herself. Shari started her plan with a gun purchase.
She practiced shooting at a gun club on November 22, 2009.
Ms. Tobyne was ready to shoot herself between November 24th and November 28th 2009.
Where Was Dwight Tobyne?
Dwight did not arrive in Oklahoma for Thanksgiving. Bryce received a text message from Dwight: “I’ve got the flu.”
A few days later he received: “I’m moving to Mexico. Please don’t tell anyone.”
Bryce thought Dwight was evading the FBI. Incredibly, he accepted the text messages without calling his brother.
The Tobyne children received similar text messages and emails. Everyone thought Dwight was in Mexico.
Shari Tobyne’s Suicide Story
Shari Tobyne said she attempted to shoot herself in the master bedroom, while Dwight was lying on the bed.
She said Dwight saw her, and attempted to grab her gun. Shari’s gun conveniently discharged one bullet into Dwight’s head. He died instantly.
Ms. Tobyne did not report her husband’s death, because she thought nobody would believe her story.
She wrapped Dwight’s 200+ pound body in a sheet, and dragged him to the garage. She wrapped the sheet in a tarp, and left Dwight in the garage.
Shari replaced the bedroom carpet to remove Dwight’s blood. A few more days of planning, convinced Shari to dismember her husband with a saw.
Shari placed three garbage bags with Dwight’s remains in the trunk of her car. She drove around Arizona, leaving each bag in a different county. She parked Dwight’s truck at an apartment house in Phoenix.
Shari Tobyne scrubbed the garage and her truck after disposing of Dwight. Her landlord reported a strong odor of bleach in the garage, after Shari moved out.
Hikers found Dwight’s body parts, a month after his death. However, Scottsdale police were not notified until the following Summer.
Why Did Shari Tobyne Kill Dwight?
Shari needed money.
What About the Children?
Shari and Dwight Tobyne had three adult children.
Dwight wanted to leave Shari after Thanksgiving. Shari told their children that Dwight moved to Mexico.
Shari’s daughter Alyson finally reported Dwight missing on July 21, 2010. Shari, the obvious suspect, confessed on August 13.
Shari originally claimed she shot Dwight in his arm, before confessing to shooting him in his head.
However, Scottsdale police did not believe her suicide story. Shari was charged with first degree murder and abandoning a human body, the following day.
Shari Tobyne Makes More Mistakes
Scottsdale police followed Shari. They observed her disposing a dismantled handgun and clothing in Chandler, Arizona. She was also seen spray-cleaning the trunk of her car in Mesa.
Shari used Dwight’s cell phone to send emails and messages, after he was supposed to be in Mexico. Shari’s and Dwight’s phones used the same cell tower, after Dwight was killed.
Shari Tobyne in Prison
Although Ms. Tobyne worked as a library aide and computer tech in prison, she is currently employed as a “kitchen cook.”
She had one disciplinary infraction, for forgery in 2016.