Dwight Tobyne and Shari Grifton grew up in Clay Center, Kansas. Dwight’s family owned a farm. Shari’s family owned a successful propane business.
She would come to the edge of the street, jump on the tractor with him and ride around.Curt Carmichael (son in law)
Dwight and Shari Tobyne married in 1975.
They moved to Salinas, Kansas in 1978, so Dwight could study Animal Sciences at Kansas State University. Shari worked in a hospital call center to support Dwight’s education, while she raised their three children.
Dwight Loved Shari
Dwight Tobyne earned a Master of Science degree in Animal Science. He credited Shari in a report “Ronnel and its Effects on Feedlot Performance.”
Special thanks are expressed to the writer’s wife, Shari, whose encouragement and assistance made possible the completion of this paper.Dwight Nolan Tobyne
Dwight’s success was tainted, after he lost most of the couple’s assets trading stocks.
However, the ambitious Mr. Tobyne wanted to improve his investment skills. Dwight got a job as a commodities broker in Salinas, to learn about the stock markets.
Business and Fraud
The couple moved to Denver, so Dwight could study business at the University of Denver. Dwight Tobyne graduated in 1991 with a Master’s Degree in Business Administration.
Dwight started “Tobyne and Company,” a loan brokerage company, after graduation.
Shari got a real estate license, to generate income in case Dwight’s business failed.
Dwight’s business was successful. However, real estate agents have a strict Code of Ethics to follow. Shari Tobyne’s real estate license was revoked in 2004.
Welcome to Arizona
Dwight suggested a move to Gilbert, Arizona, because the Arizona real estate market was booming.
Dwight also bought Shari a Jaguar — her dream car. Apparently, he was not worried about his finances or marriage.
However, Shari thought Dwight was losing interest in his business, and it would affect her affluent lifestyle.
So Dwight let Shari manage his business.
Shari Tobyne Gets Greedy
Shari Tobyne lived in a gorgeous home and drove a Jaguar. But she wanted more.
Dwight trusted her until he began receiving calls from clients, asking about his health. Shari told clients Dwight was hospitalized to delay their payments.
Dwight eventually found $50,000 missing. However, Shari said she used it for family expenses. Dwight forgave her deception.
Shari’s First Suicide Attempt
Shari stole additional money.
She sent alarming text messages to her family, and disappeared. Dwight found her at a friend’s house after a suicidal overdose.
Medics revived Shari. Dwight subsequently learned that he owed creditors over one million dollars, despite a lifetime of continuous work.
Dwight sold their magnificent home in Gilbert to pay creditors. The couple moved to a rented condo in Scottsdale, Arizona.
The FBI investigated Tobyne and Company for fraud, in 2009.
On November 5, 2009 Dwight was advised by an attorney to divorce Shari, and block her from using their remaining financial assets.
Bryce Tobyne invited his brother Dwight to live with him in Enid, Oklahoma.
Dwight rented a trailer, to move from Arizona to Oklahoma.
However, Dwight never arrived in Oklahoma for Thanksgiving, as they planned.
Meanwhile, Shari Tobyne was broke and depressed.
She claimed she wanted to kill herself. Shari started her plan with a gun purchase.
She practiced shooting at a gun club on November 22, 2009.
Ms. Tobyne was ready to shoot herself between November 24th and November 28th 2009.
Where Was Dwight Tobyne?
Dwight did not arrive in Oklahoma for Thanksgiving. Bryce received a text message from Dwight: “I’ve got the flu.”
A few days later he received: “I’m moving to Mexico. Please don’t tell anyone.”
Bryce thought Dwight was evading the FBI. Incredibly, he accepted the text messages without calling his brother.
The Tobyne children received similar text messages and emails. Everyone thought Dwight was in Mexico.
The Shari Tobyne Suicide Story
Shari Tobyne said she attempted to shoot herself in the master bedroom, while Dwight was lying on the bed.
She claims Dwight saw her, and attempted to grab her gun. Shari’s gun conveniently discharged one bullet into Dwight’s head. He reportedly died instantly.
Ms. Tobyne did not report her husband’s death, because she thought nobody would believe her story.
Shari Tobyne wrapped Dwight’s 200+ pound body in a sheet, and dragged him to the garage. She wrapped the sheet with a tarp, and left her formerly dear husband in the garage.
Shari replaced the bedroom carpet to remove Dwight’s blood. A few more days of planning, convinced Shari to dismember him with a saw.
Shari placed three garbage bags with Dwight’s remains in the trunk of her car. She drove around Arizona, leaving each bag in a different county. She parked Dwight’s truck in the parking lot of an apartment house in Phoenix.
Shari Tobyne scrubbed the garage and her truck after disposing of Dwight. After Shari moved out, her landlord reported a strong odor of bleach in the garage.
Hikers found Dwight Tobyne’s body parts, a month after his death. However, Scottsdale police were not notified until the following Summer.
Why Did Shari Tobyne Kill Dwight?
Shari Tobyne wanted more money.
What About the Children?
Shari and Dwight Tobyne had three adult children.
Dwight wanted to leave Shari after Thanksgiving. Shari told their children Dwight moved to Mexico.
According to Dwight’s obituary, he was close to his children:
…He was involved in youth sports, coaching his daughter’s softball team, caddying for his son”s golf tournaments and refereeing basketball games with his oldest daughter…
Nevertheless, his son and two daughters did not worry about dear Dad’s absence for almost a year.
Shari’s daughter Alyson finally reported Dwight missing on July 21, 2010. Shari, the obvious suspect, confessed on August 13th.
Shari originally claimed she shot Dwight in his arm, before confessing to shooting him in his head.
However, Scottsdale police did not believe her suicide story. Shari was charged with first degree murder and abandoning a human body, on the following day.
Shari Tobyne Makes More Mistakes
Scottsdale police followed Shari. They observed her disposing a dismantled handgun and clothing in Chandler, Arizona. She was also seen spray-cleaning the trunk of her car in Mesa.
Shari used Dwight’s cell phone to send emails and messages, after he was supposed to be in Mexico. Shari’s and Dwight’s phones used the same cell tower, after Dwight was killed.
Shari Tobyne in Prison
Although Ms. Tobyne worked as a library aide and computer tech in prison, she is currently employed as a “kitchen cook.”
She had one disciplinary infraction, for forgery in 2016.